Yes of course I’m freaking out!

So ladies and gentlemen the hour is up on me…upon us! This is it..we are actually about to do the whole life thing fulltime! I am terrified. Jesus Christ! My mind won’t stop racing. First about the final exams those determine if you tried at the whole life thing…so I’m freaking out because i know i can’t not make it ! All the people i would disappoint. So it has to be done!

Then after the exams. When you go back home..you are deciding whether to move out and brave life with nothing to lose! Or go back to your home and still feel the little concern about you! But you are not sure of when that runs out. If you will ever be able to do it!

And trust me it’s worse for you baby girls that think a man is the only thing that can save you from doing the life thing because you know you don’t have it in you! So if one isn’t coming by it drives you crazy…that’s why our hearts are so broken into many tiny little pieces because of that hope you are clinging on…you think each man just might save you..you don’t even try at anything because that’s all you are betting on ! But they keep letting you down so now you are so freaked out! I say do something about that shit! When it’s still early…you still have time to fix it.

Then my guys that won’t leave the house! Bother what’s that about! My guy ahbeg grow up..! Try..yes it’s not nice at all…no perks to it! But at least try and the only way to show it is my leaving your father’s dinning table! Let people breathe…damn! They’ve done everything for you….and that’s enough..start actually trying! Aren’t you tired of taking your chics to your friends apartment! Man up!

Then to you my men that woke up one morning and went right for it without hesitation we appreciate you ! Most of y’all are the reason some ladies are where they are..your daughters that you have given everything and taught them they can be anything! Y’all are the reason this other set of people are who they are ! Fathers like you are gems! Husbands like you!!!!!!!! That’s a Jack pot! Teach your sons to be like y’all ! We appreciate you so much for the effort I’m sure it’s not easy at all but you went for it ! YOU ARE A KING!

And then from those lovely men there’s a QUEENDOM! A QUEENDOM so strong! A QUEENDOM of love and good vibes only…the ladies that have braved the life thing…i honestly don’t think we can be appreciated enough! The only thing that will thrive for ages and ages…! Y’all are raising kings! It’s a whole QUEENDOM of KINGS! With a zeal to always pick yourself up and move on…even if it means you have to unknow everyone you have ever known your entire life and you have done! I can’t say this enough!!!! GO TEAM!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Even if on some days you feel like giving up…takè a break breathe get back to it ! THIS WORLD IS YOURS TO CONQUER!

Ps: didn’t edit in case of any grammer issues. I just typed and uploaded thats why there are no interesting pictures in it!

Vahn….oooutttttttuuuu!

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“The American Dream.”

Ideally you’d think the American dream is a big job on wall street . A huge house in Beverly hills, a yatch or even an island.

But it hit me recently that i have been going about this the wrong way this whole time. What I’m about to talk about is very controversial i know but it’s about time .

The black man!

I see these famous people doing the most! Being extra…topping headlines and i see the things that are being done…in my head I’m thinking they are just trying to stay relevant. But I’m missing the entire damn point…and it has been in my face this whole time.

I’d say at this point black people have proven that we are the more talented race…we might not be smart at all this tech stuff but we sure as hell know how to put a beat on a ryhme. We can throw a ball so far it gets lost in the universe. So we might not be so good at some things but we are so creative it blows my mind everyday at how good with are at some things that a white can never come close.

So after understanding that we are never going to be equal to the white man no matter how hard we try at the white man stuff…we shall never be equally accepted.

I’ve grown up in an African country. Lived here my whole life…never been to a white man country so i bet one would wonder what the hell I’d know about racism. But I read alot..alot more than i should because i have all this school work. I watch movies. And everything that i see or read makes a whole lot of sense . I spend nights trying to comprehend and sometimes I’ll watch the same movie over and over until i am sure i understand it . I go an extra mile sometimes and find the book on which the movie is based because books tend to have more details. So if you ask me I don’t have to necessarily live my country to know what racism looks like .

You’d think it’s the 21st century black people are doing just fine. But no my friend we don’t even know the half of it . And I’m sure these books and movies aren’t made to just make a buck quick Because not more that twenty people can tell almost the same story over 100 years unless there is some truth to it.

So slavery and all..fast forward early 90s majority of the black men still don’t have an average job . A black man is idle but a black man has got to feed . A black man has to make ends meet. So of course bad choices are bound to be made when one is desperate . You clearly can’t land a job in the bank or for that matter get into a good school. But as i said a black man has got to feed! What’s the quickest way to make this money…and that’s where the drugs come in . And of course it’s not that easy to deal them and not hit them!

So of course when you are high on a daily you are going to make bad decisions and being that drugs are illegal this makes you paranoid because you know you could land in a cell any day. So you choose to shoot at the cop…in all this you are trying to survive and that’s called the HUSTLE!

And just like that you are a stereotype ! So the white man is thinking this is my country and i will tame your ass!!!! I will throw you in jail until that sinks or even better just cancel you..I’ll take your life and i need you to understand no one will care .

So growing up and always having to watch over your shoulder that shit exhausts you. Because you know that the drugs business isn’t the cleanest of all. Your fellow black man will take you out without even thinking twice! “I’ll be damned if the white man kills me because of you!” So I’ll kill you first . So there’s two people trying to kill you ! And trust me no one is trying to live like that .

After years of being told to put your hands where the officer can see them, always be polite, when you are told to stop do it without hesitation. Always be in early . You are basically caged in your own head. And you decide . If that’s what’s going to keep me alive I’ll just do it . Because you don’t want to imagine the tears down your mom’s cheeks if God forbid you ever got shot.

But with all this you still don’t have the wall street job and chances that you will ever get one are so slim because you are in a public wreck of a school but a black man has to make ends meet ! So you get creative.

And this brings me to my point. You get so damn creative and turns out the world recognises you for it . And the white man finds it so entertaining and wants more of it . You get back down to the drawing board and work at it so damn hard and discover things that you did not even know you had in you. And just like that you blow up !!

You finally get a house in Beverly hills , you finally join a country club. And you are sitting at the same table as a white man. But deep down or even on the surface you know you’ll never be half as good as the white man. Even when you get a black president you think to yourself things are finally better but eight years later you are right back where you started out. But no! You have come too far to give up . You go back to the drawing board and get 100 times more creative you get even richer. But at the end of the day you go back to your huge mansion and tell your 16 year old black son to always look over his shoulder. To always put his hands where the officer can see them . And it breaks your heart that even after all you have been through to get to where you are your son has to do the exact things you worked hard not to do ever again. Then it hits you that you are black man in a white man’s world. Tragic, i know.

But being black people . With our thick skin and the resilience instilled in us by our ancestors we work even harder each day that passes. WE DO WHATEVER IT TAKES! we never sleep at night we STAY RELEVANT! Some have mastered the art , some even lose themselves in it , some die and that…that thing that we black people keep trying to fight for is “THE AMERICAN DREAM.”

So please don’t you ever any day come at me with that “Black panther is overrated” bullshit! Because i would expect from us as black people to bask in whatever glory however small it might seem . Yes maybe the movie was made to sway us from what’s actually happening but still that movie must mean something, Africa was potrayed as a beautiful place not a place with poverty and wars as thought to be. And us seeing black men winning and preserving culture in the ever changing 21st century. So i say we celebrate each one of those people who have managed to stay strong and keep getting down to that drawing board and coming up with even sicker beats, more lit rhymes, beautiful lyrics, amaizing gowns, empowering movies, soul lifting books. The ones that have kept it together to show the rest of us that it can be done. The reason why a black boy in a cell smiles each time they listen to a rap song that speaks to their soul because they know even if they are locked up . The black man at the other end of the wall has not given up !

At this point i say let’s celebrate each other. Let’s celebrate life . Let’s look over our shoulder and see the fellow black man that’s doing the most. BECAUSE BLACK LIVES DON’T JUST MATTER , BLACK LIVES ARE DREAM THAT OUR ANCESTORS FOUGHT FOR.

And of course… WAKANDA FOREVER!

Ted Talk Follow Up : Toxic Relationships.

Hey hey my pips!!!!

This is a follow up post on our previous Ted Talk. click here to read previous post.

The follow up is on Toxic Relationships. How do you know you are in a Toxic Relationship. But first we need to understand what a Toxic Relationship is .

A toxic relationship is a relationship characterized by behaviors on the part of the toxic partner that are emotionally and, not infrequently, physically damaging to their partner. (from Google)

So basically what Google is saying is this is a relationship where instead of getting all the perks of being in a relationship such as moral support, emmotinal support, love and care you are getting the opposite .

Most of you are in relationships but have no idea that they are toxic.So that’s where yours truly comes in today .

1. When you give and not get .

When you find yourself putting in all the work. The only one compromising . The only one making sacrifices. Basically getting 20% yet you are giving 100. Cases where you have to give up some things you like or behaviours but your partner justifying all the things that you ask them to stop doing and somehow they keep doing them. When you are the one that cancels your plans because your partner has asked you go with them theirs . When you are always making excuses for their behaviour. So my friend if that’s you . I’m going to ask you stand your ground and make some changes or it’s time to end it !

2. Toeing All Over Each Other .

A relationship is based on Mutual Trust if that’s not there . That relationship is way over before you even know it . So if you feel the need to always hide your phone. Lie about who you are meeting with because your partner might get jealous even if it’s nothing. A healthy relationship has to allow openness and transparency without judgment . So if you feel the need to hide things from your partner because of how they might react that’s not even a relationship.

3. Mutual Avoidance.

If you both feel the need to avoid each other . Come up with different things to keep you apart because maybe whenever you are in the same room you always have a reason to fight . So you decide it’s better to avoid each other to save the relationship. Honestly is that even a relationship? Because there’s no way you are going to be there for each other without being with each other. If anything you should be looking forward to seeing your partner just the thought should excite you . So if that’s not the case I say that’s some toxic shit!

4. Disconnection From Your Life.

If somehow after you got into the relationship you don’t hang with your friends any more, you don’t see your family much. Because they ask you to or they always make you feel guilty for not being with them all the time . Whenever you are not with them they keep calling you and unnecessarily checking in with you . So to avoid all this you find yourself disconnecting from your life . You could get depressed from this .

5. Cheating .

So I know you are thinking how obvious is that. But you’d be shocked by how many people that are in relationships where they are being cheated on. RULE No.1 If your partner cheats once chances are they will cheat again once you forgive them. That’s how it works..So if they cheat and say I was drunk or I wasn’t thinking straight because we were fighting….all that is total rubbish and it’s unacceptable. Because how come you didn’t cheat ? So the next time you fight will they cheat again? So all I’m saying if you are being cheated on and you know walk away because it’s not worth it . Cheating is really disrespectful. And one doesn’t love you if they don’t respect you .

7. Violence .

Another one that you’d think is obvious. But then again people are still living with it . Your partner beats you to near death and then they say they did it because they love you. First of all you are not a child ,secondly they are not your parent to be trying to discipline you. Just as cheating if they hit you once ,best believe it’s happening again! So people let’s learn to look out for ourselves. You can’t be getting beaten that’s not only toxic but unhealthy . You could actually die !

Here are others that I won’t get into ,

  • Threatening tactics
  • Verbal abuse
  • Bullying
  • Financial abuse
  • Constant criticism
  • Intimidation
  • Shaming
  • Manipulation

I could go on. But for now let’s work with this . So I need you to look into your relationship and ask yourself if you are happy. Because at the end of the day that’s what matters. Also I need you to know that being single is not a bad thing. Do not be afraid of being alone. No one ever died from it. So if it’s not working let it go . There’s 7billion people in the world that can’t be the only one for you. I’m very inclined to say once again KNOW YOUR WORTH! No one can do that for you…that’s an inside job and so is happiness .

But let’s not get all self righteous and carried away. Chances are you might be the toxic one . So if you feel that way I beg you to withdraw yourself from someone’s life before it gets really bad. If you can’t keep it in your pants..don’t go looking to settle down hoping the other person might change you because brethren it doesn’t work like that. You have to deal with some things on your own . And if you get into a relationship and feel like you want more that relationship isn’t for you ..end it as soon as you can. If you are over protective and overly jealous get some help.

At the end of the day I personally think one should be able to clean themselves up at least 50% of their previous relationship or personal issues before they involve someone else . Yes we all have baggage but baggage differs some is too heavy to carry to the next relationship. So know better and be by yourself and heal . You will always know when you are ready .

Ted Talk 101: My View On R Kelly

Welcome to my Ted Talk everyone. I hope 2019 is has been great for you so far and you’re all staying hydrated and giving nothing but love.
So, I’m guessing at this point we have all heard about Robert Kelly aka R. Kelly, yes? I have to say in my entire life I’ve never been so disturbed. I’m so confused, I have a lot of questions that I know I might not get answers to but I think I have to address what’s going on because I don’t know who needs to hear this.

Robert Sylvester Kelly

For those that haven’t got a chance to catch up on the recent updates concerning R. Kelly’s alleged involvement in sexual misconduct and other illicit behaviour, then I going to give you a quick news roundup. The famous R&B star been suspected of abusing women for a very long time taking them hostage and doing God knows what with them. He literally imprisons his victims and turns them into his sex slaves.

According to reports by the Time, investigators and lawyers in at least two states are seeking more information about allegations against R. Kelly, after a new documentary series reignited interest in reports of the R&B singer’s alleged sexual misconduct.

So, recently all this came up and blew the internet when a documentary titled, “Surviving R. Kelly” a six-part series that aired on Lifetime from Jan. 3-5 was released. It had different young women and people narrating their horrible experiences with the singer and the kind of things he did to them including him preying on underage girls. I must say, my mind is blown away by the human race once again.
Before, I used to hear about the claims and accusations towards R. Kelly and how his victims kept talking about the torment they went through and I clearly didn’t get it. It was recently that I came across a book titled,

‘Sex Me: Confessions of Daddy’s Little Freak by Daddy’s Girl’

written by one his victims that my eyes were opened.
The things I read in that book, I’ll never be able to unread them. I have to live with that for the rest of my life. The writer describes everything so vividly that you feel you’re literally there. The way she wrote about her pain left me numb. I’d never be able to take that kind of abuse. I could die just from the thought of it.

After reading the book, my mind remained hanging. I felt a lot of bitterness because not just one person has been through this, but many young girls. The man is disgusting. He’s an animal and to think of all the people that looked up to him. The appearances he made and the respect he got, it just drives me crazy.
In review of all that has happened, this has had me questioning these “celebrities” we are all crazy about. You look at this person and wish you had their life or probably you could meet them one day only to find out how twisted they’re. Because, if one man can get away with all this then God knows he’s not the only one. I don’t even know what to make of this!

My mum always says, “before one dies, they see a lot” and I have to say she’s right because some of the things we see and hear in our lifetime, we could never have imagined. Not in a million years. At this point, I want to give up on life. I want to cast the human race out but I know I owe it to myself to do better and help out where I can. But the world we live in gets worse by the day.
I recommend anyone to get themselves a copy of the book. If there’s anything that I have learnt from reading it, is that one should always stay away from toxic relationships.

By relationships I don’t mean just the romantic ones, but including those that involve family, friends or the casual type. Look into all of them because some of us have found ourselves trapped in a toxic relationship both knowingly and unknowingly.

You could be in a toxic relationship and not even know most especially the romantic ones where you have no choice but to end them as quickly as possible. You need to understand that people don’t usually change especially character wise and however good you are as a person, that’s just you.

You need to understand that you have the power to control how you live your life and whatever the other person does is on them and not you!
I don’t want to say know your worth because this song has been sung millions of times. But learn how to be selfish at some point. Learn how to look out for yourself all the time. You can only compromise when you get the same energy back because at the end of the day if you are the only one breaking habits. The only one giving up things, that’s enough to let you know that the person you are doing all this for is not in your corner.

Learn how to always choose yourself and stand for what you believe in. Also understand that relationships no matter what kind they’re they are a two-way street. You can’t be the only one giving while the other person is taking. You are human and one day you might run out of what to give.

Follow your gut. I must say, my gut feeling has had me through a lot of things. So, if it makes you feel some type of way do not ignore it. Toxic relationships can be with your parents or anyone. Don’t ignore the signs!

C/O Audrey

You should also know that your feelings are valid. Just because you aren’t the bread winner doesn’t mean you are not allowed to question somethings. The same applies if someone is older than you. It doesn’t mean they don’t have to hear you out and neither does the difference in your gender whether man or woman make you any less of a human being. Always know when to leave!

As for violence, don’t even get me started! If you’re in a relationship where you find yourself being abused, then trust me on this. If a man or woman hits you once, best believe they’re going to hit you again. Even if it takes 5 years they’ll find a way to harm you.
So, violence is a big no. If someone thinks it’s the answer, then they’re sick and need help. No one wants that kind of person.
As you lay in your bed, I want you think about all the possibilities and signs you could have missed out on that may be a show of proof that you’re in a toxic relationship. If you find yourself in one, I suggest you end it quickly.

That’s all everyone. That marks the end of my Ted Talk.

Also one of my loyal readers was born today!!!!

Happy New Year I Guess.

So turns out “writers block ” is a real thing and yours truly ladies and gentlemen is battling with that.

But first off Merry belated Christmas everybody I hope you had a good one…mine was great spent it with family of course…the whole crew came through so it was a turn up from like 22nd December .

I know I know..I haven’t written in like forever….so we shall do a little life update small small.

The semester ended well..I guess…at least I left in one piece but mahn I gotta tell you …it doesn’t get better this thing called life..the semester was mostly rough ..A few good things but mostly rough but like an eagle I soar !!

I’ll have y’all know Kampala people showed me that no matter where you put your phone they’ll steal it….It’s like death..You do everything right…You do things doctors tell you to do ..But either way you die..so yes my phone was stolen..it was like magic I can’t explain it even if you beat me ….

Anyhoooooo……so here I am…I just thought I needed to write before the year ended..I owe you my dear reader that….I feel like I’ve let you down the past couple of months. And I hate myself for it…

I’ll try and explain what’s going on with me in the simplest way possible…so normally when I get an idea to write about usually it’s easy I get my phone open the app and start typing my draft…work on it for a few hours and it turns out great ..sometimes …days…But lately I get the phone come up with a title…And nothing…absolutely nothing …zero content…but alot of ideas .

I’ve been at this for weeks I promise ..I’ve contacted a few people for help still nothing. You’d think this would be easy right ! I mean what’s so hard about writing life posts it’s about random ideas..i tell you most solemnly brothers and sisters it’s no walk in the park !!!!

Which brings me to the point of this post….If you are out there and you could help a sister out…please reach out because I’d hate to be one of those failed bloggers because I know I have it in me …. You can give me some tips…You could give me links to ideas…You could share your written block story with me and how you handled it …You could even give me ideas about what to write about…like topics you want me to give my opinion about…nothing controversial though …. Yes I love to “shake a good table ” But some tables are made of concrete so let’s try and leave the concrete ones out..if you know what I mean ! So friends please help a sister out…reach me on my email ..or in the comment section …my Twitter…my WhatsApp for those that have it. I’d appreciate that.

And now my other point….I want to reach out and say

THANK YOU GUYS !!!!!!

Thank you so much for always taping on that link each time I annoyingly send it to your dm and and post it all over the internet…thank you for sharing it with your friends…thank you for the comments…thank you for following …. basically thank you so much for believing in me….

It’s been nine months since I started writing and I gotta say I’m so proud of myself for coming this far…when I started out ..I thought let me just do this it must be fun and thought I would get only a few people reading and at a point I would stop and tick blogging off my bucket list ….But you guys…You guys have made worth it..each time I post something and see all those views I know I have to keep writing so I will not stop saying thank you …. Thank you Newslibre.com for having my work up on the site that has been my writing achievement this year (y’all gotta check out Newslibre.com !!!! There’s awesome writers on there..thank me later)

Okay okay let me stop with the speech as if I just won an award or something…But I need you to know that I’m going to keep shaking those tables and love you all for letting me shove my links down your throats literally ….

Happy New Year…..to a year filled with more of my opinions and more of your comments on them and to chasing away the spirit of writers block.

To more blessings from the Lord…because at the end of it all it all belongs to Him.

Happy 2019 loves❤

Cheers 🥂

Ps: Do not forget the first point ! Please reach out and help a sister!

Yes I’ve Said It, Shoot Me!

So guys i might come off as a very different person after you read this and i want you to know that i mean all of it . every damn word….. but some of you might agree with me and continue falling in love with me.

So here’s the thing this thing called money ….let’s actually discuss it….guys i like to believe that money is everything.

Yes yes I’ve said it ….argue and fight it all you want ….look at it this way before you go running your mouth how I don’t know what I’m saying ….

What would you rather….?

Being broke as hell but you know with your true love and maybe as you might like to call it “happy”

OR

Rich as hell but not exactly with the love of your life and also when life gives you shit you can go on vacation and chill out .

Because let’s face it….rich or poor life is going to give you shit…it doesn’t care …. so would you rather face life’s shit when you are rich as hell or broke as hell it’s your call because the shit is coming anyway .

The thing with being rich whilst you go through life’s trials at the back of your mind you know I have money on my account but if you are broke you are going through life’s trails and you got nothing but “happiness” … let’s face it yes there happiness without money but the happiness with money….my G that’s true happiness.

Yes yes I know some of you want to badly agree with me but you can’t because you are noble and also you were raised well and all…and your folks taught you that money isn’t everything. ….especially if you are African. ….we have got this imparted in our heads that money is the “root of all evil ” but fam that entirely is up to you…it comes down to what you do to get the money because if I wake up and put in the work….there’s no way you are going to convince me that money is evil. …just how…so this whole idea was put in us to prevent us from getting greedy and learn to be happy with what our folks gave us…but we are past that now. …right now we are supposed to get money our own money ….

You see where the world is headed the rich people are noble take for example Oprah Winfrey. …have you seen that woman….she’s a self built empire! And is she evil??? Nuh fam she put in the work ! So don’t console your lack of hard work as nobility .

And also let me put this out there. …too much money is not enough money …I repeat Too much money is not enough money! !!!!!!!

What I’m trying to say is don’t get comfortable where you are because you think you have small small moneys. …news flash: money gets done ! So the hustle might not be exactly the same as when you started out….but let it still be a hustle don’t assume you’ve made it until you reach a point where you don’t admire anything because you know if you wanted it could be yours.

The next thing. …don’t be scared of showing it off…look fam you worked hard ..you put in the effort you spent sleepless nights and now you’ve made it…spoil your damn self buy that expensive car …buy that building. ….do what you gotta do to make you happy ….people are always going to talk I tell you….they will! So as long as you are happy. .that’s all that matters. ..don’t hold back!

This one is for the ladies. ….yes every guy thinks chics these days want money and all….so I suggest this is what we gon do…get your shit together so together that no man can break it….then wait and see the men you’ll attract ….you are going to get you an man who has it together and you are not going to have to deal with these cry baby men….who think we want their small small money’s. …because I am not going to lie a relationship without money….that sucks imagine a relationship where you don’t go on fancy dates where your man doesn’t get you nice gifts where you can’t take your man for a vacation some place nice…where you can spoil your man with cute things. . .I don’t even want to think about it.

For the guys.…okay this isn’t entirely what you should do but lemme just put it out there….if you can’t afford a relationship right now I say don’t get into one…and make the girl feel bad because she can’t ask you for anything because you’ll tell her how she’s about the money….yes I know there’s true love of building yourselves and all and believe me I am happy for you but if that’s not the case….let the whole relationship thing go it’s not a compulsory class that you must take.

we know it’s the truth but we are still in denial….so let’s snap out of it…!!!

All I am trying to say guys is let’s work hard…let’s not feel sorry for ourselves because at the end of the day we would rather have the money!

If you’ve read this and you agree with some of it or all of it ….you my friend are destined for great things….because it takes a lot to actually accept that money is everything!

At least I am sure of that where the world is headed you are not going to be recognized by your name but by your net worth. ….

You really don’t want to be the relative or friend who people are afraid of picking calls from because they worry you might be asking for money .

This isn’t supposed to make you greedy this is supposed to make you reestablish your philosophies and set your priorities right to make sure that paper comes through that’s all and I’m sorry if this post didn’t make you feel that way .

Please do not argue with me….my mind is made up as you can see….don’t for a second think there’s anything you can say that will change what I just said.

I promise I could go on with this money thing. ….I could but I feel like my point has been made….

Nuff said!

This had to be said. …so YES I’VE SAID IT …SHOOT ME!

Cheerio😂

The Life Time Investment.

I bet you are eager to figure out what it is you are about to find out and invest in. …well good for you because you don’t even need money to do it , all you need is yourself.

SOCIAL CAPITAL

First things first ;

Definition.
the networks of relationships among people who live and work in a particular society, enabling that society to function effectively (this is the one Google offered )

But I I think this runs deeper than society functioning and all .. I want to look at this on a personal level . Ummh let me see how to put this. Your social capital as a person is everything! I repeat it’s everything! !!! So this means you need everybody every single person . You make networks create connections at every place that you step foot because where this economy is headed that’s seems like the only way we are going to make this work .

Social capital is an investment you don’t know when the returns will come through but you are sure that they will one way or the other…so invest as much as you can. This is a one man job don’t be out there banking on your parents social capital that’s theirs and you need to create yours . Because you are not going to go all over the country declaring how you are so and so’s son or daughter. ….

When you create your own social capital and it comes through for you. .you are proud of it in a way because you know you put in the effort.

I don’t mean this in terms of work only I mean it in just the social way too…people that come through when you hold events or small parties …people you celebrate achievements with. ..people you share your trials with. ..that kind of thing. Like an emotional army of sorts that always comes through ready to be there for you ….if you isolate yourself all in the name of “I mind my business and do my thing .”

And I’ve noticed that in this generation people regard being anti-social as being cool….someone straight up tells you “I’m anti-social I don’t like going out there talking to everyone and stuff I like to do my own thing….” okay yes yes I know we have people that are genuinely anti-social and maybe they don’t like it. Because being anti-social is not and has never been a good thing it’s not something to brag about and take pride in….because at the end of the day you are going to need people. ..anti-social or not ! So fam….get out there and make it work . Don’t be out here being picky and all (okay be picky just enough even then don’t over show it ) because you know who you will need when it comes to it. …. so fellow children of the Lord. ..let’s be humble and accept that we need each other. …. speaking of being humble…..that will be a story for another day…. for now let’s network because that will be your net worth! (Damn I just killed that line😎)

Make them now people. …now

Anywho I’m not sure what I’m saying has come through but yeah I hope you get where I’m going with this. The smartest people have failed in life because they thought they could do it alone…. no one does life alone it is impossible. …. people who haven’t stepped foot in school have made it….so now look at us we have had a chance to go to school some of us more than two schools. …and during all that time we have met plenty of people so I think we are at an advantage so let’s not take that for granted. ….. Invest in social capital as much as you can . You’ll never know when you’ll need it.

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Sunday S.O.S!

Hey….what goes on???…

For starters I added a year of life on 4th and Mahn did it go well..👸

I’d never ask for better friends and a better sister ….so I want to say thank you everyone that sent messages …that came through. …that got me gifts. …I love you guys! This past year hasn’t been the best to be honest but I made it work so I belive I am stronger to take on a new one… I have grown up so much . I have been blessed with opportunities. ..I have fucked up a lot of things. ..i have disappointed the people that care for me.. I have disappointed myself …… I have really been through some shit but here I am still thriving and I feel like I only just got started. And I have learnt that life …it gets harder and I get tougher because that’s the only option i have and to be honest I am proud of myself for keeping my sanity …maintaining my relationships with people and not giving up….so everyone that’s been there for me….thank you and God bless you and let’s be at this yet again this year!

And of course if it wasn’t for God I wouldn’t have made it this far….so thank you Lord for this new year that I intend to live growing stronger in you.

That brings me to the point of today’s post….I need help…major help…and anybody please come through for me. .and if there’s any people like me I hope this is our breakthrough.

I struggle with prayer. I get on my knees and I can barely talk to God I say the same basic things of thank you God . Please forgive and bless me….it’s prayer but it’s not that deep I don’t feel it on a spiritual level….and it’s driving me crazy that I talk to way too much …to everyone and can barely talk to the one that really really matters.

I’m over the crammed prayers…the rosary the lords prayer the prayers I was taught as a kid….I feel like I crammed them and now I just recite them for the sake of it…I want to have a conversation with God. ..I want to feel his presence when I pray I want to pray for more than 30 minutes and I also want to get committed to prayer I want to be a prayer warrior more than anything. And there’s no way that is going to happen for me because I can barely sustain 15 minutes of prayer .

Also how to study the bible…and interprete it and understand and be consistently turn to it whenever. … so basically what I’m saying I need to grow stronger in the Lord and I need a little guidance!

So if you are out there and you can help in anyway ….if you have my number text me. ..or leave a comment here so that other people like me can get help….those who can email me please I’ll be greatful vahnpk@gmail.com .

Prayer is important and I want to be good at the important stuff….

Capture

The last run !

Hey hey….what goes on..??.it’s been a minute !

Well you know how life takes over your life and you can’t even do any thing with your life…but I’m here now !

So internship ended and I had the time of my life honestly I acquired tones of knowledge, I made new friends and got connections basically i think I achieved all the targets.

And now school has started and guess what! ? This is my final year at uni. …. yes I knew this day would come but not so soon …just recently I started campus and now I’m getting done just how !? and this weird person I know likes to call me finalist . And everyone else won’t stop reminding me … my first lecture this semester this guy kept on telling us how this is the last run and all and in my head I’m yelling “please shut the hell up its already and bad as it is.”

How do I feel about this you ask?

Well i will have you know that I’m terrified. I keep wondering what will I do after school? Will I get a job immediately , will I start up my own thing. .. like what will I do with my life really. I can’t call my folks for money anymore I’ll be responsible for myself so yes I’m legit freaking out.

But I’ve given all this a lot of thought and you my friend if you are with me on this i low key got you . So here’s how we are going to deal with this . So get a pen and paper you might need to take some notes .

1. SAVE ! SAVE! SAVE! SAVE !

save as much as you can . Save all the money you have save each coin you get my G save ! Because we both know after school it will be a bit tricky running to your folks for some money to buy small things like a deodorant, airtime .. you know. So if you have your little money you will get by. So I’m guessing you are wondering where will I get the money to save I can barely go by as it is … well here’s how you see that money that you are spending on turn ups and road trips all in the name “of this is my last year at uni. ..” get all that money and save it because truth be told you still have a long life ahead of you and you can always do all these things because you will even have more money then….so open up an account if you don’t already have one and save every penny . You’ll thank me later .

2. EDUCATE !

The reason we are in school in the first place is clear . It’s to study otherwise why are you are you here ??? So sit down and focus on that degree. It doesn’t have to be a first class although ideally that’s the dream. I say do your best as long as you feel like you have given it 100% that’s what matters because you don’t want to leave this place thinking I should have done better so sit down and give it your all so we call all get invited to that graduation parteh! !! #NoRegrets! As a wise man once told me in this life everything can be taken away from you but not your education no one can take your degree away from you that’s why you need to do this for you and not anyone else PS: That wise man is my Dad❤ And believe me that man is wise.

3. GET A SIDE HUSTLE !

Yes we know I’ve said a degree is important and all and this might contradict Me but I’ll say it anyway . Your degree is useless because half the people I know don’t do what they studied and I know you agree with me. So in the meantime grab yourself a side job that you do after school or even during try to strike a balance and this is why .

First you’ll get more money to save if not a lot of it . You will get skills that you can use to better your life. You will get connections that you really need so find a small job it doesn’t have to be fancy . Wait tables after class if you can….anything really to earn you that extra dime .

So speaking of side hustles if you have anything that I can do please hit me up and offer me that job . The Lord will bless you. I shall be waiting 😊

4. PRAY!

I am bringing this last because it’s the most important and I’m really not going to get into it because if you have come this far and you don’t know how powerful prayer is then I’m not sure what you are about. Because at the of the day if God isn’t involved why bother ?

So people there you go….you will thank me later….I know it’s scary and all but we got this! We have been through worse right ? So let’s do this like our lives depended on it because they do!!!!!!

gods love vahn

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